Marriage, Anniversaries, and Making It Work

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Today is our 4th anniversary. I honestly can’t believe it’s been four years already — I’m certainly not saying that in jest. I literally mean, I cannot believe that Chad and I have been together for 8 years. I thought a couple of years together was a huge milestone, but now that we’ve been together for 8 years — and married for FOUR of those!? — it’s pure insanity.

Ahhh The Pre-Baby Years! AKA the years before marriage! PS. I’m aware that I always take pictures on the right (my left). So in, like, every picture of us, we are on the same sides. It’s funny.

Ari looks at these pictures and says “Mommy, you’re a princess!” Except he pronounces princess as princes. It’s quite possibly the most adorable thing ever.

I can honestly say that our wedding day was one of the happiest days of my life. And not for the “Oh-my-gosh it was a huge event and wonderful” sort of reason. Because it wasn’t a huge affair at all. Actually, we eloped. And it was the most perfect day — and perfect weekend. ♥

We woke up that morning (in our giant king-sized fluffy bed at the Inn By The Sea) and went straight to our couples massage. None of this “you can’t see me on our wedding day” nonsense. In fact, since we were completely alone with no other family around, it was perfectly necessary to have my (soon-to-be) husband at my side!

Post-couples massage I went to get my hair done at a local salon. That was pretty much the only time we were apart from each other the whole weekend. And everything about it was perfect. Seriously. Everything. ♥

In the spirit of always trying to keep it honest here on the blog, I’ve admitted, fairly openly and honestly with friends, that things were way easier before children came along. Really. Things were way easier before kids were added to the mix. No, children aren’t the problem. But they just make things way more difficult.

I mean, I know so many people who have said “You have to make time for date nights once a week/month/etc.” but it’s not always possible. We don’t have a babysitter we can trust. And it’s awful. Work schedules and exhaustion are for real issues. It can create resentment and communication issues.

We’ve been there. We’ve struggled. And we’re still riding the roller coaster.

So how do you forgive? How do you move forward? How do you reconnect with your spouse?

Enter Marriage Fitness — a program created by Mort Fertel, a world authority on the psychology of relationships. He has an international reputation for saving marriages and an online program to help!

Traditional marriage counseling and most relationship books offer problem solving strategies and communication skills. But tackling marriage problems stress-out a relationship and make a bad marriage worse. And did you ever try to communicate when you’re angry? That doesn’t work either.

Marriage Fitness is an innovative step-by-step relationship-changing system that teaches you how to save your marriage. You’ll learn to neutralize your problems and put into practice a system of relationship habits that will shift the momentum of your marriage. And the best news is—you don’t have to dig into your past, dredge up your problems, or practice communication techniques. This is not marriage counseling; it’s Marriage Fitness!

In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation. People from all over the world schedule private tele-sessions with Mort Fertel and seek his counsel by joining the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp.

We’ve used this program to work on our own issues. After Ari was born we had a serious breakdown of communication. And not communicating is quite possibly the worst thing that you can do in a marriage. We became strangers just passing each other, barely speaking. But with the help of Mort’s program, we worked through it.

I’m not saying that we don’t encounter bumps in the road still. We do — heck yes, we do. And adding another kid into the mix hasn’t done us any favors; but we return to this program to help get our marriage back on track.

Mort’s Marriage Fitness program is endorsed by marriage counselors, therapists, relationship experts, and mental health professionals. Subscribe to his free report, the “7 Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage” here!

And to the love of my life — regardless of the ups and downs and craziness, there’s no one I’d rather ride the roller coaster with! ♥ Here’s to another 4 more!