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unintended lessons for my toddler // AKA thanks, random stranger

December 22, 2015 by Rachel 2 Comments

Dear Old Cranky Woman at the Cable Store:

I wanted to say thank you for reminding me that while everyone else I ran into yesterday was sweet and kind, there are still people who will be bitchy to strangers for absolutely no reason.

While Ari and I were minding our business, waiting our turn, you decided to ask my shy toddler a series of questions. Easy questions, yes. Like, “How old are you?” to which, he responded, “free.” Which is shy toddler speak for “three.” After he politely said hello to you and answered your serious of questions, I repeated what he said, for clarity purposes (I recognize that young parents are generally the only people who can properly translate toddler speak… plus he was being shy so it was a near whisper).

After you asked a series of other questions, you said “Maybe you can answer instead of MOMMY doing everything for you.” I ignored you. ‘Cause ain’t nobody got time for that. And? See above.

But when my very well-behaved toddler asked to watch a movie on Mommies phone (after waiting patiently in his stroller for 15 minutes without so much as a peep), I decided to abide. I pulled up the sweetest and most educational show on Netflix, Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood. Another patron noted that her niece loves Daniel Tiger! I told her that we’re watching the episode about Daniel getting a new baby sister, in hopes to prep him for ‘the big change.’

Dear, dear, old lady… this is where you piped in, “I don’t think he’s going to care about his sister when he has all the TV to watch!”

Dare I say it, but oh-so-typical, old lady judgy talk… just days before Christmas, at that! YOU, dear lady, are the exact opposite of the person I try to be everyday.

And although I owe you ZERO explanation, here is what you DID NOT see:

  • My 3-year old has a cough from his Reactive Airway Disease (aka toddler asthma). He’s not been sleeping well; thus, his parents have not been sleeping well.
  • Despite his cough (and his Mommy getting only 2 hours of sleep), we both awoke at 7am to tackle the day.
  • The very well-behaved toddler you saw had already endured a trip to the grocery store and a doctors appointment without so much as a peep! That was two hours before our encounter.
  • This was the single errand I was dreading, since it was to my former employer (albeit, not the location I worked) and I had just been “let go” several days prior, at 35 weeks pregnant.

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So thank you, mean old lady. You served as an example for my child; an example of how rude and condescending a person can be; an example of how NOT to behave to strangers.

Lucky for you, I just brushed our encounter off without a word. Because, let’s face it, you would have thought my behavior to be “typical” if I had said anything rude to YOU. Right? “Typical young person being rude to the elderly.” But no. No, that’s not the case. Let’s just call it the Christmas spirit. Or lack of fight. Regardless, I hope whatever miserable existence you have for this week is nothing like our encounter. If it is, I feel very sorry that that’s the kind of life you lead.

Sincerely,

A stranger with a lot to be sad about, but the one you see with a smile. Also known as The Mom who is doing a damn good job.

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Wake up and smell the Karma.

April 14, 2009 by Rachel Leave a Comment

I’m hoping no one takes offense to this blog post, but I’m guessing someone, somewhere will.


Let me start by saying that I do not judge people based on their own personal belief systems. These are just my thoughts, driven by my personal journey. So while I welcome your comments, please do not preach to me.

That being said…

Yesterday was Easter. This weekend I spent a lot of time with family (both mine and my boyfriends family). And I had some time to reflect on what this means to me and to those around me.

I was raised Roman Catholic, but am not only non-practicing, but I do not believe in any single set of beliefs. I was not always this way. At some point along the way, I realized that it didn’t make sense… at least not for me. Perhaps it was my studies in ancient religions and eastern religions. I studied the Islam, Hinduism, and Buddhism, and realized that they all believe in the same religious tenants, but in different forms and in different shapes. 

Most of my thoughts on Easter this year came from Facebook. Before you sigh and moan, hear me out. So all of my oh-so-holy-and-mighty Catholic friends gave up something of meaning for lent. Let me be clear that I once did this, but looking back, it seems like a giant charade.  Give up something. You’re supposed to really think about it. Here’s what they come up with: Soda, Chips, Ice Cream, Coffee, Candy, etc. WOW. Great to see you put a lot of thought into it. It seems like a game they play. No one’s really sure why. Except they did it last year. So they might as well do it again…. right? 

I’ve mentioned that I’ve studied many other religions. One thing that I noticed about a few is that they believe is that while they all preach “only god can judge” they also preach that “this, this and that are ALL BAD and god is not cool with it.” For example, homosexuality. I’ve come to the realization that I cannot EVER be part of a religion, or even slightly associate myself, with an organization, that denounces an entire group of the worlds population. And where are they on the “he who casts the first stone”?? 

It all really pisses me off when I am judged by people who either: a) feel sorry for me and offer their prayers, or b) feel that I am really missing out on something and truly believe I will damned for eternity. Guess what? I’m a pretty good person. I do base my life around certain things. For instance, I believe that good comes back to you and so does the bad. Plus, the kindness of strangers is an amazing thing. I do not need a religion to tell me this. This is something I KNOW. I don’t need to know that someone gave their life for me. I don’t need anyone to do this. I know that I can be a good, or even a GREAT person without the drama that is organized religion. 

I also am very unsure of how someone can be SO SURE about Jesus. I mean, what about all of the other great believers? How about Mohammed? He was a pretty stellar dude. Pretty much just like Jesus. And Buddha? Try finding bad things to stay about these people. TRY. 

All I’m saying is that this Easter opened my eyes to the final conclusion of my former religious life. I will never again be a believer in organized religion. There comes a point where you open your eyes to all of the good in the world, and realize that all we are doing is segregating ourselves. 

WAKE UP WORLD. Smell the karma.

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