I’m coming up on three years as a SAHM (WAHM/part-time earner) and I’m only recently becoming confident in my self-value.
See, just three years ago — only one month before I was due to deliver Remy Bea — I lost my job of ten years. I was completely devastated and 100% exhausted. Devastated because I felt like I let my family down; exhausted because I knew in my heart I couldn’t keep up with the back and forth of primary parenting while working any longer.
Without my financial contribution to our family, I felt completely lost and isolated. In truth, I felt unworthy. My husband would now be the sole provider of our family. And the guilt that came along with that responsibility tore me to pieces. As I grappled with the notion that my previous income would not have been worth two kids in daycare full time, I was also coming to terms with my new identity.
Stay at home mom.
What would people think? Would my husband lose love for me? Would my valid as a person decrease because my role had (drastically) changed in society?
Truthfully, it’s something that took a couple of years to come to terms with. My role adjusted several times, as I returned to the workforce part-time just weeks after Remy was born — but with both kids in tow the whole time. Also, I monetized my side-hustle and shifted more energy in that direction. Working at home meant juggling diaper changes with photo edits, cooking dinner while sending emails, and often times not setting proper expectations for myself or my time.
I am a master of chaos.
I am the keeper of appointments.
I am the juggler of to-dos.
I am the ringleader of a tiny circus.
I am the family calendar.
I am the multitasker extraordinaire.
I am the boo-boo kisser.
I am the errand-runner.
I am the disciplinarian.
I am the mid-day snuggler.
And all of this is important. Undervalued, but important.
It’s time to shift that paradigm. Your value is not based on your income; your value is not based on your financial contribution to society; your value is not based on the hours you put in. You are more than your work. You are important because of everything you have to offer the world.Your value is not based on your income; your value is not based on your financial contribution to society; your value is not based on the hours you put in. You are more than your work. You are important because of everything you have to offer. Click To Tweet
Remember this, friends. When you’re in the depth of it — the ‘OMG what am I doing here?!’ — remember that you are enough. You are invaluable to so many. ♥ ♥