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“We haven’t been happy for a long time.”
Disclaimer – this may be an unpopular post/opinion, but it’s real life. And, in all honesty, when my husband said this out loud to me, I responded with, “we’re just a different kind of happy.” But then he said, “Yeah but not a ‘happy all the time just because‘ happy.”
And you know what? He’s right.
But so am I.
Having kids is completely draining. Sure, it’s emotionally draining. But it’s also physically demanding. At the end of a busy day, when you have zero left to give, you have no choice but to give just a bit more. Your little humans’ lives are depending on it.
Would I trade them? Not for all of the riches in the world.
But I can still long for the days where I only had to wipe *only* my own ass.
The days where I could live by my own schedule.
The nights where I could work extra hours in the office and not have to worry about anyone waking up and needing me in the middle of a deadline.
I look at my husband and long for moments where we aren’t both too tired to converse during (a long overdue) date night.
So if you’re in the thick of it like us, just know that you’re not alone when you get these feelings. It’s okay to be bummed about the fact that your life looks vastly different than it did before. It doesn’t make you a bad mom (or dad); It doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids; It just means you’re normal.