Remy Bea // 1 YEAR!

February 1, 2017 in #MomLife,baby girl,life,pictures,Remy Bea

Guys. I can’t believe we survived a whole year with this child! She has been challenging since her first days at home. She has pushed me to my physical and mental limits, but we survived. I feel like this blog post should just be titled “WE SURVIVED!” I’m not even joking.

For those who haven’t followed our journey from the very beginning, let me quickly recap: Remy Bea came into this world a few days late, but in a big hurry. After a drug-free delivery, and immediate latch, we headed home. Once home, Miss Bea decided that she didn’t want to latch anymore — at least not without using a nipple shield. We dealt with it. It was fine.

But that was really just the beginning of her difficulties.

We spent the better part of the next 8 months trying to figure out why she wouldn’t sleep. She averaged about 2-3 hours a night and then would literally scream the whole rest of the night. Oh – and she wouldn’t take a bottle. Just me and my nipple shield. I was exhausted. I was at my wits end. I would regularly wake up my husband (who slept in the other room so he could actually sleep) just to cry and hand her off because I was afraid I might actually shake her. I spent so many nights crying and screaming and saying atrocious things to my baby. These are not my proudest moments, but I have to share so that if anyone else has been in this position (which, I believe more women have been than care to admit) they know that they are not alone.

After figuring out she’d been dealing with UTIs and then visiting a chiropractor to get treated with cranial sacral therapy (oh, and me giving up dairy), our life took a turn for the betterish. No, there weren’t rainbows or butterflies; but the nights where I screamed obscenities were fewer and further between.

And since I didn’t do an 11-month recap, here’s what you’ve missed since her 10-month recap:

  • Girlfriend still isn’t walking, but totally should be. That’s right. Chick can cruise furniture, she can stand up on her own in the middle of the room, and she can walk using her walker. In fact, I know she could walk if she wasn’t so lazy. That’s even what our pediatrician said! Ha! She just knows she can hustle by crawling even faster!
  • Eating. Ari calls Remy Bea a “hungry, hungry, hippo,” and this could not be more accurate. She throws down full-adult sized meals. No joke. Her favorite foods (besides ‘everything’) are rice, chicken, beans, muffins, bananas, pancakes, cranberries, blueberries, prunes, grapes, pasta, and ham. This kid can eat, y’all.
  • Which is amazing considering she weighed in at 16 lb 3 oz at her one year well-visit. If you’re keeping track, she’s still holding strong in the 2nd percentile for weight. I legit asked the doctor if she has a tape worm because she’s honest to God eating food nonstop!
  • Sleep is happening, ya’ll. Sleep is happening! I feel like shouting this from the rooftops! About 5 weeks ago, I moved her out of our room (where the crib is) and into Ari’s room with the pack-n-play. And, believe it or not, she sleeps! I swear it has more to do with me not being in the room than anything else. If she can’t smell me in the middle of the night, perhaps she just doesn’t wake up because of me! (It also can’t hurt that I wear earplugs and will only go down to her if she really needs me).

  • Girlfriend is still very much breastfeeding. It was still regularly every 3-4 hours up until a few weeks ago. Magically, one week before her first birthday, she decided to take a bottle of pumped breastmilk and just drink it. I. was. in. disbelief! Also? A little irritated. Like, now, you decide to take a bottle!? Sigh. Oh well. Hashtag WeSurvived.
  • Words. Miss Bea can scream “Mama,” “Dada,” and “Mommy!” like it’s her job. But she’s also saying “no,” “mine,” “ball,” “hi,” “bye,” and “hello?” Hello is by far the cutest thing she says, because, when she says it, she’s either holding up my phone to her ear, or just her hand. And it’s definitely a question! “Hewo?” ahhh! Melt my heart!
  • She had her first experience with throwing up. (insert sad face) When we all had the stomach virus, Remy got hit almost as hard as Ari. I was able to stop her from getting dehydrated, but she still was throwing up quite often for a few days. It was awful, ya’ll. See all those different types of food she likes to eat?? Well, it wasn’t just breast milk vomit. It was real-food vomit too. Ugh.

I have to say, as much of a pain as she has been, and as much as I can actually see her continuing to be a ‘spirited’ child in the future, I’m so grateful that she completed our family just one year ago! But I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I’m ecstatic to be out of the ‘baby’ stage. It’s a cute stage, but it’s oh-so-difficult! I’m so excited to see what this next year bring us with both of our kiddos! Thanks for following along for the first year of Miss Bea’s life! xo

{ 20 comments… read them below or add one }

Shannan Panganiban February 1, 2017 at 10:15 am

Your first line had me cracking up! It’s so true when we think, “holy moly, we all survived!” Happy birthday sweet girl!!

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Rachel February 1, 2017 at 10:43 am

Yay! Happy First birthday to her!!

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Leighann February 1, 2017 at 4:29 pm

Happy First Birthday! She looks so happy!!!

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Kate February 1, 2017 at 6:38 pm

Happy first birthday to this little lady! I hope she remains spirited but perhaps a little bit more cooperative in year two. 🙂

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Tabitha February 1, 2017 at 8:31 pm

Yay for survival!!! Girlfriend did put you through the ringer this year didn’t she? She is going to be one strong, driven woman… and that’s awesome! Keep up the good work mama. Oh and she’s a cutie too!

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Rachel February 1, 2017 at 9:41 pm

Thank you! And if one thing is for sure, it’s that she IS and WILL be a force to be reckoned with!!

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Jeeyoung February 1, 2017 at 11:31 pm

Happy birthday sweet girl!!! And congrats mama! You are amazing!!!!

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Tamara February 1, 2017 at 11:50 pm

her little smile is so sweet! poor kiddo having to deal with throwing up for the first time… it’s the worst when they are sick

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tineke - workingmommyabroad February 2, 2017 at 4:24 am

Happy birthday to your cute little one!! Love the “we survived” description, that´s often how we feel but we´re not supposed to say it right?

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Patricia February 2, 2017 at 5:12 am

I had no idea you faced so many challenges for the first several months! I’m so happy to hear she’s sleeping! Happy birthday precious!

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Anna February 2, 2017 at 7:23 am

Happy First Birthday!! I know how you feel, my daughter did me the same way.

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Belle February 2, 2017 at 9:35 am

Awww! She’s so precious! Happy 1st Birthday!

Belle | One Awesome Momma

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Harmony, Momma To Go February 2, 2017 at 11:44 am

happy birthday to your little one! Your first year sounds a lot like mine with my son, who will be 8 in March! Although she seems to eat more now than he does…

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Justine Y @ Little Dove February 2, 2017 at 4:20 pm

I’m so sorry that you had so much trouble with sleeping for so long, that really wears you down and it’s so hard for both momma and baby. She is absolutely gorgeous though, congrats on making it a year!!

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Danielle February 2, 2017 at 8:46 pm

She is such a cutie. So sorry about your rough start, thank you for sharing your story though. I’m sure many moms can relate.

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Gillian February 2, 2017 at 11:05 pm

Happy First Birthday! Can I just say that I love how you started this post saying that you can’t believe you survived?! This is how I feel about my youngest and he is 5 now!!! Holy moly, it’s been a wild ride with that one….

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val February 3, 2017 at 12:11 am

Cheers to making it through the first year – sounds like it was a doozy!

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Sane Mama February 3, 2017 at 9:22 pm

Wow, she sounds exactly like my son. I could have skipped his first year altogether… well, at least the screaming, bottle refusing, non-sleeping, general angst-y-ness of it. One small thing to keep in mind if the difficult behaviors return in the terrible two’s or terrible three’s, take a look at some info on highly sensitive kids.

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Holly February 7, 2017 at 10:47 am

I think I said this before but mine was about 16 lb right at 1 year, too. She also eats a lot of “real food” and just poops it out!

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Rachel February 7, 2017 at 1:46 pm

Yep it’s crazy! I just don’t know where she puts it in the meantime lol!

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