It’s not you. It’s us. Well technically, it’s both.
This may be the most uncomfortable blog post I’ve ever written. But here it goes: We will not be accepting visitors for a few days after this baby is born.
If you’re nodding but saying “Surely, she doesn’t mean ME, though“. Sadly, yes.
Let me explain:
After ari was born my need to please was on a roll. We had a constant parade of visitors at our house. Meanwhile, I had to keep it clean. And here’s where all of you say “but we don’t care if your house is a mess!” But see, I do. And *I* want it clean for visitors.
Plus, I was having major troubles nursing. So I was pumping. A lot. Like once an hour or so. That alone was exhausting. Add in a colicky baby, adjusting to motherhood, and the physical and mental trauma of labor and delivery that is so often ignored by our society, and enter a severe case of PPD.
Other cultures tend to the postpartum mother and give her a chance to bond with her baby (see this article). But ours gets googly-eyed over newborns and clings to just “5 minutes” of holding them. And it can be a bit overwhelming. I know. I’ve been the visitor before. But after having gone through it, I can honestly say that I am so much more conscious of the fact that a family needs time to heal and time to bond.