… and so it begins.

May 23, 2014 in Ari Davis,children,mommyhood,parenthood

The “No” stage, that is. That’s right. We’re in the thick of it! I’ll ask him a question that I *know* he will answer yes to, which is usually “Do you want some more?”

And he very quickly just says, “No.” It’s not a screaming “NO, NO, NO!” It’s a very simple, often gentle, “No.”

Even when he means yes. I don’t get it. He knows how to say yes. So why all the no’s??

It turns out this phase is called “Toddler Refusal.” They’ve just realized that they have a strong will and can answer however they so choose. And in most cases? They choose no.

Even just now, I looked at Moosh and said “Do you want to go play outside?” and he very quickly answered “No.” Because the stinker CAN. Ugh!

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It can be frustrating, if you let it. I generally ignore it. But sometimes I need him to be cooperative. So my plan is this: First, roll with it when I can; Second, give him choices instead of asking yes or no questions.

For example: “Ari, do you want to get in the car now or play for 2 minutes and then get in the car?”

We’ll see how it goes. My guess is he’ll still look at me and whine “Nooooooo!” but it’s worth a shot, right!?

Either way, this is just a phase. It will pass. But tell me moms — do you have any tips or tricks you used to survive the ‘NO!’ phase!?

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